One of the world’s amazing wonders…
I just met with my Spark sisters and I am stoked.
As always, I learn a lot when I am with them, more so when I keep my mouth shut. From them come the most wonderful stories and learnings and I am just thankful to be in their presence.
Here are 5 things I learned from them today:
1. Spouses need at least 15 hours per week with each other. 20 for couples who are in crisis.
No, your husband can’t be watching TV while you are on your computer. You have to be there, with him, talking to him – about his day, about his thoughts, about everything and nothing. It cannot be just a co-existence, there has to be a purposeful exchange of self, or a simple touching of minds.
You can also apply this to your children. At least have a date with each one (if you have more than one like I do) every week. I know Bo Sanchez practices this and it cannot be overemphasized. Children are young once, their minds can be trained in (what should be) the most positive, inclusive, loving environment they will ever know in their lives only in this short span of time. It does not matter if they are 3 years old or younger. They know. Let’s not squander this time with them.
2. What’s the problem with the world? I am.
This was an intro to a documentary made by a movie director (think Ace Ventura and Bruce Almighty) – who gave everything and gave everything up and questioned why we humans think and act the way we do. And that’s the title – I am.
The trees only get what it needs from the soil – just enough nutrients and water, enough wind, and it also gives enough – enough fruit and flowers and food. Animals are the same.
It is only the humans who get more than they need, accumulate more than enough. And only one other thing is the same – cancer cells. It eats everything in its path.
I mean, how many bags or shoes or houses do we need?
Food for much thought.
3. The heart used to be central with humans.
People nowadays use their minds a lot – and look where it got us. Before, it was the heart that ruled. In many images from the time that was past, the heart was central – to the ancient Egyptians, the heart was the seat of emotion, thought, will and intention. An important part of the Egyptian soul was thought to be the Ib or the heart. For us in the present day, one only needs to look at the Sacred Heart of Jesus to realize its importance.
That’s why we have to take care of it. How? Love it. Give it no stress. Let it be happy. Let it be kind.
4. Notice, talk, be.
A Sparkner shared a walking exercise where they were told to notice the tree, talk to the tree and be the tree.
The lesson: we are the tree.
We are all energy. We are one. If we know this and realize this, why would we want to hurt ourselves? Seems silly.
But somewhere along the way, we have forgotten and now find ourselves so disassociated, so uncaring, so willing to hurt and be hurt.
How did we grow so far apart from ourselves?
5. Everything grows with love.
Test this with a mung bean. Put some in 3 planters. Speak expletives to one. Do nothing to another. Speak of love to the last.
See which grows faster, the more lush, the more abundant.
See if it shifts your perspective.